What can a reader learn from Love in Excess?



A Taxonomy of Love, the difference between Eros and Agape (p. 109)


Difference between Loving and Liking (p. 165)


The Nature and consequences of Love as a passion, a force to which the person is passive and one which cannot be controlled with individual will or agency (p. 185, 112, 124, 147. 209. 255)


The moral consequences of passion for both sexes


True love’s effects on expression, speaking, writing (101) (121)


The impossibility of truly understanding love vicariously, via a book


Minimum conditions to be met for a marriage to be a “companionate marriage” and potentially last through mutual “conjugal affection” (109. and the whole book)


Dangers of arranged marriages


Multiple social taboos against strong, independent, outspoken women


How it feels to live under the taboo against declaring love first, openly (105) (125)


How to connect narrators and novelists’ interests and aims with characters (126) (108)